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by Riley K. / Tessina Tina B. Smith

Free eBook How to be a Couple  Still be Free download ISBN: 0878770518
Author: Riley K. / Tessina Tina B. Smith
Publisher: Newcastle; First Printing edition (1980)
Language: English
Pages: 176
Category: Social Sciences
Subcategory: Social Sciences
Size MP3: 1886 mb
Size FLAC: 1890 mb
Rating: 4.2
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Riley K. Smith, Tina B. Tessina (Goodreads Author). With the assistance of both of the authors, Fumbled Book Press presents it here, brand new, for your learning, growth and well being.

Riley K. For over three decades, this book has been recognized as THE established handbook on relationships between equals. It introduced the concept: cooperation instead of compromise or competition. It gives clear instructions to show you how to be true to yourself and true to your partner at the same time.

How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free was a successful course for two years before it became a book. Out of their therapy practice, couples classes and workshops, their group living experience, their own no-holds-barred friendship, and their own separate couple relationships, the authors have developed the view about.

Tina B. Tessina (Goodreads Author), Riley K. Smith.

How To Be A Couple And Still Be Free"To many people this may seem to be an impossible dream. Tina B. Tessina, Ph. D and Riley K. Smith, . are two people who know that this is not the case. They have witnessed at first hand that couples within a relationship can indeed retain their freedom. A relationship that recognizes the needs of both parties, can only be good. It will allow couples to reap a richness in their existence, denied them as singles. In today's world, we hear a lot said about the individual's right to freedom from our politicians. The concept of democracy is based on each individual's right.

This book may not be reproduced, in whole or in part, in any form or by any means electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system now known or hereafter invented, without written permission from the publisher, The Career Press. 3rd ed. p. cm. Includes index.

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How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free by author Tina Tessina is the perfect tool for designing and creating a relationship unique to your individual personalities and situation. With it, any couple can learn to work together to create a loving, sustainable, healthy, and equal partnership that you will treasure. Have you ever wondered what the last twenty years of your life will look like? You can design your future when you decide to adopt a positive aging attitude free of aches, pains, and rocking in a chair.

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Growing up with an alcoholic violent father & abused mother, when I reached adulthood I realized I didn’t have a clue how two adults could live together in a mutually supportive and healthy relationship. Movies and TV were of no help. After reading this book I finally had a wonderful picture, and idea of how that could happen in the real world. All my long time partners have read it, and I’ve given it as a gift to friends who were struggling in a relationship, or trying to find one. I’ve been blissfully married for years now and our love for one another grows as we continue to change and grow.
Very useful and easy to read with lots of examples!
This book is one everyone should have in their library. I don't know how I made it without it.
Уou ll never walk alone
The book is interactive and interesting.... The examples given were thoroughly explained and gave examples of positive communication skills, which allowed the reader to use new verbal tools
Great read
As with all other conflict settings in life, communication and the desire to find a meeting point of mutual interests and understanding are the keys to a successful partnership and/or marriage. Tina Tessina and Riley Smith's book "How to be a couple and still be free" provides some helpful tips on how to be a couple and still maintain one's individuality. Moreover, it is the authors' position that traditional roles of how men and women ought to act and behave no longer hold true in today's global, rapidly changing world. Partners no longer need to "restrict themselves to fit a cultural mold" for if we "must distrust and deny [ourselves] in order to be acceptable to others, then [our] happiness is as restricted as [we are]."
Instead, the authors encourage us "to be a scientist and to examine our behaviors and conditions as if we were making a scientific study" - only if we know ourselves and create the life we want, can we be honest about our wants, needs and expectations in a partnership and/or marriage. Being free means having options: "Discovering the rules for how [we] ought to be, discovering who [we are] and separating them so that [we] know the difference."
The authors, who have been married to each other for decades, speak from the heart and show that problem-solving does not have to be a task to dread. Sometimes it does help to have a pillow fight to let off some steam. . .
I met Tina years ago, through her work as a couples therapist. She helped me immeasurably and so I have been following her work ever since. I purchased How to Be a Couple and Still be Free, and read it in just two sittings. That's how compulsively readable it is! Even for the sections that did not apply to me, I still felt like I was learning valuable information that would "forearm" me should such situations arise. The best parts are the role-playing dialogues between couples... we've all had at least some of these conversations (my fave was showing how passive-aggressive tendencies can be brought out in something so simple as what to to eat for dinner!). In Tina's foreword, she talks about for love should be freed... because, all too often, it is about obligation. "If you loved me, you'd..." or "I'm only doing this because I love you." That's not what love is about. I also really like how Tina and her coauthor talk about the importance of putting yourself first. Not in a selfish way, but it's like the airplane safety rules: you have to put on your own oxygen mask before you can help others. "A happy, healthy dynamic couple or group will enhance the growth of the individuals in it," the book says. Very true! They make the point that being free is not being selfish. I tried to learn that the hard way, before I met Tina. I think this book is a must-read for anyone who's in a 'couple' whether you're having problems or not, because there are several good exercises to help keep things in perspective. I like how the book explains that childhood environment really doesn't (or shouldn't) have an effect on whether we are worthwhile or not, or lovable or not. There's also a great section on "Secret Agreements" -- it's a real eye-opener. How to Be a Couple and Still be Free is also applicable to close friendships, or even parent-child relationships. I loved it.